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When the New Babies Require Extra Care, by Janet Colbrunn
As a young mother, I prayed for twins. Who would have guessed that in
time, my prayer would be answered with multiple multiples for
grandchildren! Excerpts from our Christmas letters tell the story best.
To our family and friends at Christmas 2001:
This has been a busy year for Donn and me. First, Christy was
married to Chris in September with our only grandson, Boyd, as a
darling ring bearer. Interestingly enough, most of the women in the
wedding party were pregnant including our two daughters-in-law,
Joni and Deb. By October, we advanced from having one grandchild to
a whopping five! Robb and Joni bore their second child, Lilia, not
long after Shonn and Deb gave birth to triplets, Bethany, Kent and
Nathan, at 32.5 weeks. The triplets were very healthy for preemies
and came home in about a week. We have been providing full-time,
live-in nanny services every other week since then. The job is
exhausting and exhilarating and we expect that the overwhelming
need will continue well into next year.
To our family and friends at Christmas 2005:
We traveled 700 miles in November to be with Christy and Chris when
their twin boys, Garrett and Brock, were born at 37 weeks. Our son,
Shonn, insisted that we were over-qualified to help with just
twins. Although they came home immediately from the hospital, both
refused to breastfeed. They required the persistent help of a
lactation consultant before they were able to nurse full time.
Therefore, extra help was needed to keep up with the supplemental
bottle feedings while Christy recovered from childbirth. Five weeks
later, Christy felt confident that she could handle the twin care
and the house on her own and we returned home to spend Christmas
with the other 6 grandchildren. In case you lost count, Robb and
Joni have another child, Gabe. One day he will appreciate having
these two new buddies to play with at future Christmas gatherings.
To our family and friends at Christmas 2007:
Just when we thought that having 8 healthy grandchildren was a blessing
indeed, Robb and Joni
announced that they would be having twins. The cry for help came
early with this set of twins since Joni has had difficult first
trimesters with her other children. With double the hormones, her
stomach would not tolerate anything by mouth for eight weeks. She
was confined to bed and required a port in her arm for fluids,
nutrition and medication. We moved in with them for much of that
time to assist her and to care for their three children. Her
condition continued to improve until Adalai and Troy were born at
36 weeks. Their baby girl came home with Mom while her brother
remained for another week until his lungs matured. This experienced
mother of five rallied back to caring for her family
single-handedly within a month.
At a time when some parents contend with having their adult children
moving in with them again, we found ourselves moving in with our
children temporarily. Whether the need is money, medical or multiples,
we found that it was a good idea to develop guidelines to help things
run smoothly when intensive grandparent care becomes necessary.
* Devote your time to support the basic household maintenance,
freeing the parents to make baby care their primary task. Depending
on the number babies and the health needs of the mother, child care
may also be your primary responsibility, including night feedings.
* Draw from your previous parenting experience but allow each
family's parenting style to guide your behavior.
* Make suggestions tactfully, but graciously accept the fact that
they may not be taken.
* Give the family time to be alone together by going to bed early
(you may need it) sitting in another room or leaving the house on
occasion.
We were blessed with the opportunity to bond!
* When possible, share your job with other grandparents, friends and
relatives so that you can have some down time. Most grandparents
don't have the stamina they used to have. Even hiring someone to do
some general housecleaning once every other week will feel
revitalizing.
* Ask for permission before rearranging or making household changes.
* Protect the mother's need for rest or privacy by offering to sit
with guests who overstay their welcome.
* Agree to a policy of confidentiality to assure the family that
their private issues will not be discussed elsewhere.
* Avoid comparing babies and families. Talk about the strengths of
each when people ask you to compare.
* Treat singletons with the same pride as the multiples and the
multiples with the same individual attention as the singletons.
* When your time of being needed dwindles, step back graciously; but
be alert for the next call to help.
As we reflect on our time of helping, we realize that we were blessed
with the opportunity to bond with our grandchildren and children in the
process. In addition, we have grown closer as a family since we have
all been able to share the unique multiples experience. How many
families would qualify to hold a family reunion at the Twinsburg Twin
Festival?
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(c) 2008 Janet Colbrunn <baycourtpublishing@yahoo.com>.
RELATED LINKS:
* Gooseball?
http://www.thephilfiles.com/2008/05/06/gooseball/
* Man's Schemes, God's Wisdom
http://www.heartlight.org/diary/dg_990303_14.html
* Maybe You Can Tell Us Apart?
http://www.heartlight.org/articles/200706/20070627_usapart.html
* Writing Christmas Letters
http://writingcreativechristmasletters.com
This article can be found on the web at:
http://www.heartlight.org/articles/200805/20080529_multiples.html
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